Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Enjoy the "Ugly" Process

Hello People
How are you doing?
Hope you are very well
April's end is just 4 days away...Wow!!!
Well, in April 2016 I started writing posts again after disappearing for 2 years. I was Compelled to Birth Again. Maybe that's why April is special here.
Thank you so much for being on this journey with me since then. More thanks to those that have been here since the beginning. I also say a big welcome to everyone that is just joining us.

As I was getting ready for the day this morning, a simple 7 lettered English word dropped in my mind and the word is........ PROCESS. To be honest, I had been reading and watching a few things of late and most of them have talked about life's processes. So I thought to myself, oh then the blog post for this week will be on process. Not long after, I read something on Instagram and thought it would be useful to my sister and sent it to her. She responded and I explained what I thought about the post and how it affected her, then wrote 'Enjoy the "ugly" process'.

You see, as a person I hate processes. If I have an issue, I would go directly to the person that can resolve the problem irrespective of the bureaucracy involved in or around the situation. I have been called out on this a number of times. Also, a more personal journey for me will be weight loss. It has been on my year plan for some time now. I lose a few kilos and get upset that it is taking too long then get off the #fitfam band wagon. A little while down the line, I am angry again that I have added weight and start #fitfam again. Why so?

I just enjoy getting results instantly. However, some things are determined to take longer. A career isn't built in a second. Even simple things like friendships take time to evolve and mature. How much more good academic results, inventions, purpose, marriage, weight loss and anything you really want to achieve or get done asap. In all honesty, some things will only be figured out in a lifetime. Things will take time to mature so using the words of Prof. Yemi Osinbajo in a video that has gone viral "FARA BALE" and enjoy the "ugly" process.

"I mean that the heir, as long as he is a child, is no different from a slave, though he is the owner of everything, but he is under guardians and managers until the date set by his father."
Galatians 4: 1-2 (English Standard Version)

Provided you do the right things (right work, hard work and persistence) and aren't lazy about what you really want, you can be assured that when the time is right, you would get your desires.

From my beautiful hands and heart,
Filled with love, hugs and kisses,
Have an amazing week.
Miss Onakz...

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Scared but Still Trusting

Hello People
How are you doing?
How was your pretty Easter weekend?
Did anything fun or interesting happen?
Hope you had a fantastic holiday.
How's your first work day at the office going?
Hope it's not too stressful
Oh well, mine is going very good too.
Thanks for thinking to ask.

I think I love children although sometimes, I am not really sure. What I know for certain is that I adore them before they start throwing tantrums, talking back at you or being generally naughty. There is really something about their innocence that excites me. Their genuine smile and easy life I guess. Another reason I like them is because it's very easy to play rough with them. Their weight is just right for tossing and their enthusiasm for adventure is amazing. 

You see, I'm that Aunty that will take your child up and spin him or her around for some seconds (Well, the child must be well over the age of 1 though). I also like to carry children and stretch them as high as my own hands can reach before bringing them to the ground again. Every time I begin playing with kids, my sister is always anxious because she's scared that something will happen. On the other hand, the kids and I are having very good fun. So evident that almost always, when I get to put them down, they come running back in minutes for a replay.

Sometimes, we are like that as children with God you know. We enjoy the thrills and excitement that His blessings and miracles give us and we turn to Him again for the next challenge.
Amazing as it is though, sometimes or should I say some of us allow fear affect the thrills we enjoy. We run to God for our education, get our degrees and we feel fantastic. We trust Him for a fantasy job or business idea, then when it comes we feel intelligent.

Then bam, it's time for Him to deal with us regarding our health or relationships or marriage or finances or work or business and we become worried. Oh God!!! I appreciate the raising and tossing you have given me in other aspects of my life, but now Lord, I'm scared. Too scared of what you will say and do regarding my home. To scared of the standard you call me to keep regarding my marriage. Too scared of how you'll want my finances to work. Lord, I'm scared of how you really want me to evolve. I'm worried of what you are instructing regarding my friendships.
We forget that we initially entrusted in His hands the other aspects of our lives and He delivered them to us way beyond our dreams could.

Please as you go into this week, let go of fear or panic or anxiety and trust Him enough to carry you through.

Being confident of this very thing, that he which began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Jesus Christ:
Philippians 1:6 
(English Revised Version) 

Have a beautiful rest of the week
Chilling because it's only a 4 day working week
With loads of love, hugs and kisses as always 
Miss Onakz...

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Be Gentle, Sensitive and Kind to All

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen
How are you doing?
Hope you have been having a very good time.
For me, things have been going well. Some days, I'm on point and other days generally lazy. I was even asking myself yesterday when I became this lazy. That in itself is a topic for another day.

A few years ago, I stayed in Port Harcourt because of work. The accommodation came with most of what we required (electricity, food, internet, etc) and if we had any issues, we only needed to make a call to the accommodations office and someone came in immediately to fix the issue. Because the issues were raised over the phone, I never really had a relationship with the staff in the accommodations office. The relationship was best described with the narrative below:
Me: "Good day, please we have no light in the flat"
Person Responsible: "Sorry about that Madam, we will send an electrician to look at it shortly"
Me: "Thank you and bye"
And that was it.

I would not say I was ever out rightly rude to the staff but I also was not personal. I treated them with the mind set of "It is your job, get on with it" and I would also admit I have had a number of impatient telephone conversations or snappy responses when I was asked questions. I also sometimes demanded that a number of things were done MY way.

After almost 2 years of a no love, no hate, I don't know your name and I don't care relationship, I finally left the flat and was back to Lagos to continue living my life in my house. A few months later, I was back in that accommodation for work again and this time, I had to physically present myself to the accommodation office to complete some documents and all and it was amazing how nice I was to the staff and they were to me.

What is the message this week I can hear you ask.
Oh well, it is nothing serious or extraordinary.
All I have to say is that because someone is not physically in your space does not make them unworthy of your kindness or because you can not put a face to a voice or physically touch an individual does not make less human that you are. The person that picks up your call when you call a customer service line is also human and please cut ALL human beings some slack.

Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.
Ephesians 4: 31 -32 (The Message)

This message is also for the impatient and sometimes irrational Miss Onakz
Have a wonderful week
With loads of love, hugs and kisses from me to you as always
Miss Onakz...

Tuesday, April 04, 2017

Various Parts of the Body

Hello People
Good Morning, 
Good Afternoon, 
Good Evening. 
The last three greetings above are dependent on two factors; where you are reading from (location) and when you are actually reading (timing). In life, these 2 factors usually work together.
It is April already!!!
Au Revoir to Quarter 1 2017.

Hope you had a good week last week. By good, I mean that you looked hope in the face with a smile, shook hands with it and in fact you both became best friends. Don't worry, God is still able to deliver to us the things we hope in Him for. Just keep trusting, and be sure that He will come through for you.

Harmattan is finally over. Praise God!!!
Two reasons I am not so much a fan of the season are the dust and particularly this year, the heat. The heat was so bad that even Air Conditioners were finding it very hard to keep up. Now, I am so glad that at least rain has started and the weather is significantly cooler.
Don't forget the dust part. You will clean a table, go away and come back later only to find dust again. The thing really tire me.

Anyway, I was cleaning my house recently and some dust particles were dropping. In micro seconds, my brain sent signal through my nerves to my eyes muscles to close and prevent these particles from falling into them. I started thinking to myself, why did the brain have to tell the nerves to tell the muscles to shut the eye. After all, if the particle had entered, it was the eye that would have suffered and not the brain. Oh well, if the particle had really entered the eye, the brain would have sent another message to the hand to try to get it out and also sent a message to the eye which would be watery by then. The legs would have also been informed to look for a place where there was water so that the hand can rinse the eye. More body parts would have been required to partake in the consequences of the brain's action or inaction. In actual fact, my whole body would have felt the foreigner in the eye.

What am I really trying to say?
We are all one body. 
Whatever affects me affects you.
How I live my life can directly or indirectly affect how you live yours. 

"That there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together."
(1 Corinthians 12: 25 -26; English Standard Version)

"The way God designed our bodies is a model for understanding our lives together as a church: every part dependent on every other part, the parts we mention and the parts we don’t, the parts we see and the parts we don’t. If one part hurts, every other part is involved in the hurt, and in the healing. If one part flourishes, every other part enters into the exuberance." 
(1 Corinthians 12: 25 -26; The Message)

Have a wonderful week
Caring and showing concern for the other parts of the body. 
You also can do so by giving a smile and some hope.
Load of love, hugs and kisses as always
Miss Onakz...

N.B.- Please pardon my biology if I didn't get the full analogy.

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

The Thing About Hope

Hello People
How are you doing?
How was your week?
Hope you had a beautiful one and you never forgot to smile.
Should I be very honest, I almost forgot about smiling last week especially when I had some lingering work and other personal issues. I honestly was weighed down by them to the extent that I felt physically unwell. But by yesterday, I became significantly better and I was able to genuinely smile again.
This morning, just as I got to my desk and was about to quickly write this post before I began my work for the day, someone I barely know came to tap me and say only "Good Morning" with the biggest smile I had seen it a long time. I smiled back and reminded myself again, "Miss Onakz, always smile."

Yesterday, while having my quiet time. Should I be honest again (seems like this is an honesty post), I had it yesterday not because I felt like but because I felt very drained. I didn't even feel the slightest spiritual about anything. I just told myself, "Even if the it is just your devotional that you read, you have tried." So I opened the devotional and read. After that, I picked up my bible and started reading the book of Romans. After reading my bible sweethearts, I felt significantly better. I will just write some of the passages that ministered to me yesterday:

Romans 4: 20 - 21 "He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God, and being fully convinced that what He had promised He was also able to perform."(New King James Version). This passage talks about Abraham. His circumstances although very bleak did not make him loose hope. If you please, you can also read the full details in Romans 4.

Romans 5: 3- 5 "Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us."(English Standard Version). Hope brings results.

Are you a student in waiting, graduate in hope, employee in waiting, business owner/entrepreneur in waiting, husband in hope, wife in waiting, father in waiting, mother in waiting, healed in hope, debt free in waiting, millionaire in waiting...? (It just occurred to me that the list is in fact inexhaustible.) I urge you that while still in waiting or hoping, just trust God for good outcomes.

Have hope. Fully trusting God even when the circumstances do not feel like it or like Miss Onakz of last week, you feel low, down and almost out. Trust Him, that His promises do not waver and when your expectations come, it shall be a HUGE relief. Proverbs 13: 12 "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire comes, it is a tree of life."(New King James Version)

Loads of love, hugs and kisses as always
With a smile added this week from me to you
Miss Onakz...