On Excuses and Feedback

Hello People
How are you all doing?

Hope last week was beautiful and you enjoyed achieving everything that you wanted to. As for me, I tried to but last week was really striking because I learnt a lesson on excuses and apologies. I thought it would make a great post, that is why I chose to write about it this week. Please enjoy the read.

Firstly, let me thank Tobi for pointing a flaw I never thought was very important to work on till now. The importance of honest feedback from people can never be overemphasised. Those few minutes of our conversation taught me a very good lesson. Proverbs 27:17 "Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens a friend's character." International Standard Version.

I grew up knowing how to apologise. If I think I did anything wrong or I was scolded for anything, I never had a problem saying "I am sorry". That is a good thing, isn't it? It shows I am well mannered and cultured (*winks*), right or wrong? Anytime I did not want to do anything or a found something difficult or frustrating, I would just bring out my "I am sorry" card (You can guess, it was some form of joker to me) and then move on. Sometimes, if I was just being lazy, I would think, "I will just say I am very sorry" (*covers face with hand*). Please o, I am not saying that I did not have occasions or reasons to be genuinely sorry and apologise. All I am saying is, it was sometimes my easy way of escape from tasks or responsibilities. 

At the beginning of this year, I had an idea that I thought was very ingenious and beneficial to human kind (well, I just joking now but in the future, I am sure I will think something that would change the world). So I got a few people on board. Cool, right? After sometime, I was not getting the "vibes" I thought I should get. Tried a few times but things were not going my planned way. Then I just thought again, 'It is time to apologise and move on". I had already typed my apology and infact sent it, when I spoke with Tobi. All she said was "You know you have part of the blame. You did not do 1, 2, 3,... You always apologise for things instead of just doing them. Look at your blog too, you apologise in almost every post. Stop apologising and get on with it" she said. All I heard in everything she said was "Stop being reactive, be proactive". Funny how my mind works. You may be saying something to me but I am hearing it in a different language. But in all, I knew I was very guilty of apologising with no action in some areas. I looked at myself for some minutes and thought of times when I could have just done what I was supposed to but thought apologising was better instead. Are you apologising for things you should do, be doing or have done? Good intentions without requisite actions do not count. James 2: 17, "In the same way, faith by itself, if it does not prove itself with actions, is dead." International Standard Version.

Therefore, instead of apologising again at the end of this month or year, I have decided to have the giveaway now. I do not want to give any excuse or say I am sorry for not doing it in November 2016. It is my first give away on this blog after starting over 6 years ago. My first post was August 22, 2010. But can I still say I have spent 6 years blogging if I actually did not write anything here for over a year at some point but still read other blogs?  Well, I will just leave that to you to decide. However, this give away is to make the 6th anniversary of my first post on this blog...LOL.

The gift is a book titled Kings Not Slaves by Ola Osibodu. There is is a short video below based on the story in the book below. I have a hard copy of the book for Lagos, Port Harcourt and Abuja residents only. However, if you win this give away and you are resident outside Lagos, I will get the e-copy of the book across to you.

Q: What do you need to do to get the give away for free? 

A: All I want is honest feedback or comment on this post. The comment should be about me or the blog. Nothing completely irrelevant, not a text nor whatsapp message. Just comment in the section below of this post. The very first complete comment here (sentence or phrase) will wins the prize. One word does not count o people. Isn't that simple enough?

Yay!!! Are we game? Let the comments begin...LOL

Have a wonderful week people

Giving and getting honest feedback

Loads of Love, Hugs and Kisses

Miss Onakz...

 

Additional Information

1. Please continue to hold my friend up in prayers. For God's healing and restoration to be her portion.

2. Ladies reading this, there is an event coming soon that I would love you to be a part of. I will give you full details in another post soon.